What is a Simp? | A Parasocial World in Online Dating

If you've spent some time browsing the internet, it's not uncommon to find people who seem to be very knowledgeable about celebrities.

These people are often very passionate about the celebrity they fawn over, knowing almost everything about them. But here's the catch: they're not related to the celebrity at all; they're just being delusional about their parasocial relationship with them.

You can see them anywhere: social media, streaming sites, or celebrity profile pages. These kinds of people usually have low self-esteem and don't mind being a doormat for the person they "love." If you don't already know it, they're called simps.

What is a simp?

The term simp is a slang word that is a shortened form of simpleton—a fool. Back in the day, a simp was known to be someone plain, foolish, and ignorant. From the mid-2010s to early 2020s, white knight(ing) was used instead of simp.

Nowadays, they are regarded as foolish people for falling head-over-heels for a person who doesn’t feel the same way for them. A person who simps for someone usually goes to great lengths to get noticed. In streaming sites, they often donate large sums of money just to get their influencer idols to notice them.

But it’s not only strangers who simp for celebrities; people in relationships are also known to have simping tendencies, but it’s validated. Of course, you want to shower your partner with love and attention—that’s the bare minimum of what being in a relationship is.

While it’s okay to simp for your partner, doing this with someone who doesn’t even know you exist is another story.

Understanding Simps

To fully understand simps, what they do, what they usually want in life, and why they do the things they do, let us first understand the meaning of a simp.

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, a simp (often disparaging) is someone (especially a man) who shows excessive concern, attention, or deference toward a romantic partner or love interest. It is also a show of excessive longing or love for someone or something.

In a toxic masculinity culture, a man who goes to extremes for women and spends large sums of money to make them feel pampered and spoiled is considered a simp.

For example, an OnlyFans subscriber would subscribe to a model for a whole year, which can cost around $200. They not only subscribe but also purchase and tip a hefty amount of money to the model, hoping they’ll be reciprocated with love and attention.

Sadly, what these simps don’t know is that these models are just in it for the money and don’t care about their subscribers' feelings and dreams.

Another example would be a viewer for a livestreamer on a streaming site. He would donate a hundred dollars just so the streamer would shout out his name during the stream. While this behavior might seem harmless, it can be devastating for simps when done in extremes. Imagine how much they’re willing to spend in a day for women who don’t even know they exist.

The reason why simps donate a huge amount of money to their favorite streamer online is that, normally, streamers usually don’t acknowledge small donations compared to those who would be extravagant and donate a lot.

Why Would Simps Go To Great Lengths?

What do simps gain out of this?

Don’t they know it’s parasocial?

Why do they do such things?

A simp’s behavior is often rooted in their sexual desires and longing for love and attention. Loneliness is the biggest reason why there are simps all over the world.

They grow up in a setting where they aren’t loved, given attention, or have no validation and vindication. As they grow up, they don’t know how to flirt with a woman, let alone start a conversation with one.

They compensate for their social shortcomings by showering celebrities and social media influencers with love and attention, creating a parasocial relationship between the simp and the influencer.

There’s a huge difference between being a nice guy and a weirdo who fawns over someone. Nice guys don’t ask for any favors in return, and if someone were to give them attention, they don’t make a big deal out of it.

A simp, on the other hand, creates unwarranted scenarios to force a person to give in to their desires. They often create uncomfortable situations and have no sense of boundaries.

Simps are Even on Online Dating Apps!

Although not every simp is awkward or introverted, there are some that are very outward and extroverted. They can be master manipulators.

Unfortunately, simps are not limited to social media and streaming sites; they’re also on online dating platforms. These men can be downright obvious. They tend to be very possessive of women they’re interested in, often entering one-sided parasocial relationships with them.

People claim that simps ruined the online dating scene. We could put it in an analogy where quality men who are open to dating are like expensive items from high-end stores that take a while to ship, while simps are like your knockoff retail items found on Amazon; easy to have, easy to let go of—basically of little worth.

While other women love the attention they get from simps, many, if not the majority of women on dating apps hate the unnecessary attention.

Why is that?

According to a consensus, simps are like the yes-men of the dating world.

Sure, they can be great listeners, great people to talk to at times, but one thing that people notice is that it feels like their lives revolve around the woman they’re simping on, and their attention can be suffocating.

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