Dating Foreign Women : Signs She's NOT INTO YOU

When dating foreign women, be sure to notice how body language reveals real attraction.

Have you ever gotten the feeling that the woman you're dating isn't totally into you? Are you holding on to the glimmer of hope that she genuinely likes you but just isn't all that forward about it? When it comes to foreign women, it can be doubly difficult to read the signs simply because there's so much that gets lost in translation.

When dating foreign women, it isn't always easy to tell for a good number of reasons. The first is language. You can't expect her to truly express herself in English if she just isn't good at it. Another could be that she's too reluctant to offend, particularly if she is from a very traditional culture. Lastly, and most sadly, she might not have the best intentions in mind and is an opportunistic person to say the least.

Okay, say all things were equal and these nuances don't exist. You're still left with the uber-complexities of the international dating game, many of which you will have to maneuver regardless of the country you are in.

Now, there are two types of ladies who fall into the category of “not into you.” The first is someone who really isn't into you. The second is someone who is kind of into you, but not really. Men interested in finding a foreign girlfriend are bound to bump into one of these during the course of their dating run.

Let's talk about how you can tell which one is which and how to deal with them:

She really, truly isn't into you.

Fortunately for you, it's easy to figure out a woman who really isn't into you. If you are decisive, you can end your suffering immediately.

First, check for obvious red flags when on a date. This primarily involves observing her body language and behavior. An uninterested date may display the following behaviors:

1. Avoids regular eye contact
2. Avoids physical contact
3. Leans her body away from yours
4. Doesn't smile or laugh much
5. Insists on going home alone

When a lady leans towards any of these behaviors, do yourself a favor, politely escort her to a cab and move on. You don't need a translator for negative body language.

She's kind of into you..maybe?

Okay, so the first kind of lady is easy enough to decipher and deal with. This one will have you ripping your hair off by the end of the day. This is the kind of woman that no amount of dating advice can prepare you for, yet most men will have encountered at least once in their lifetime.

To be fair, both men and women are guilty of sending mixed signals to their corresponding dates. In the case of foreign women, it's more like mixed martian hieroglyphics.

So how does it work? Well, first off, you end up spending a decent amount of time together. You go out on a date, have a decent amount of fun (at least you did), and go out on another one. Next thing you know, you've been hanging out for a month. Woohoo! You found yourself a girlfriend! Not quite.

Just because you've been spending time with each other doesn't mean she's willing or ready to commit to you. She could be tolerating you, seeing you as just a friend, or worse, using you.

Here are some tell-tale signs she's not all you think she is:

1. She sends mixed signals.

She doesn't show consistent behavior. One day she seemed awfully sweet, the next totally uninterested. She kisses you on some nights, other nights awkwardly avoids physical contact. This kind of woman torments you in your sleep and you keep on trying to figure out what exactly is going on inside her head.

2. She's too casual around you.

You're her “bro” or “buddy.” She invites other friends to your planned “date.” Maybe she's just more comfortable that way. Maybe you just don't get male and female differences in behavior. Or maybe she's just not that into you.

3. She's dishonest.

She said she needed to be home early because she needs to take care of her sick mother. Turns out she's out partying with her girlfriends. When it comes to talking seriously, she struggles to give a straight answer. It seems she's emotionally unavailable too often.

While these are just a few of the many dubious behaviors an uninterested woman can display, the point still stands. No matter how many times you tell yourself that you have a future with this woman, you have to be honest with yourself and with her.

What do you need to do?

The most realistic dating advice one can give is to have clear, honest, and open communication. The thing is, she either likes you enough to give a relationship a good shot or not. This is especially important when you travel thousands of miles to find a bride. You can't afford to waste your time, energy, and money on a flimsy chance at “love.”

What you need to do is ask her if there is anything there. Of course, your timing has to be right. If you feel something isn't quite right after a few dates, then you deserve an answer.

Don't tolerate mixed signals. A woman doesn't have to openly declare her love for you immediately, but she doesn't need to treat your emotions like a pack of used tissues. You went way out of your way to find real love, not a faint shadow of a chance at something resembling affection.

Take off those rose-tinted glasses!

Men in love are often unable to distinguish genuine affection from its hollow mirage. When you are head over heels for someone, you try to rationalize their shady behavior. When you are able to step back and see things from a broader perspective, you can then see that you haven't been treated fairly.

When foreign women love or care for you, it speaks beyond any spoken language. It's not wishy-washy, thoughtless, or insubstantial. When you encounter the real thing, you'll know it. So don't settle. If one date doesn't work out, then move on. Because even if you have to meet a thousand women just to find the right one, it will all be worth it.